On This Sunday…: Role Models, Part II

This is an extension of the previous edition of On This Sunday…

ESPN’s Keith Olbermann, with a commentary on Minnesota Vikings reinstating Adrian Peterson and why this is the wrong move.

UPDATE (8:30 a.m. PT Wednesday): The Minnesota Vikings has since reversed course and barred Adrian Peterson from playing for the team until his legal matters are resolved.

On This Sunday…: Role Models

Celebrities. Activists. World leaders. Athletes. These are just some of the many types of people that we look up to as role models — individuals that set exemplary standards for how we should live our lives to make this world a better place to live in.

On This Sunday, we learned that there are some within one of those categories that failed us all — athletes. More specifically, I’m talking about NFL players Ray Rice and Adrian Peterson.

In a nutshell, video surfaced this week of Ray Rice beating his then-fiancee in an elevator at an Atlantic City casino in February while Adrian Peterson is indicted for child abuse charges against his young son.

While I’m not much of a sports fan, I’m sure Rice and Peterson are talented athletes in their own right. They are admired by many football fans young and old, poor and wealthy, black and white among other attributes. There probably are young children that aspire to be just like them someday.

These incidences of domestic violence — which we all know happened with Rice — and child abuse — which is alleged with Peterson — do a great deal of harm to their reputations as the exemplary figures they are supposed to be to young children.

It is heartbreaking to see that these individuals would inflict the kind of physical harm against the very people that they supposedly love — the same harm these players should be protecting their loved ones from by others. Trust is broken. Fear is instilled. Psychological scars emerge. These are the byproducts of abuse by their lovers and parents that should have never happened in the first place.

I know that feeling too. I was physically abused as a child by my father.

I lived with my father for the first 13 years of my life before I entered the foster care system. I remember, as a young child, often fearing that my father will go off on me for any reason just about every day. Sometimes, there was no reason or involved reasons that had nothing to do with me. Often times when such physical abuse occurred, he had been drinking like he did on a near-daily basis. He often promised that he would protect me from others that may try to inflict harm toward me. While no one else ever tried nor did they have any reason to do so, my father was the only person in my life that did the very thing he promised to protect me from.

To this day, he refuses to apologize for hurting me in the most undeserving way imaginable and I don’t expect he ever will. He has betrayed my trust to the point that any potential efforts on his part to show remorse or regret for his actions cannot be taken seriously. I have not had any contact with him since May 2007. Frankly, I prefer to keep it that way for as long as he lives.

A few people in my life since have suggested that just because I believe child abuse is morally and legally wrong that I also oppose corporal punishment such as spanking. One foster parent I lived with even attempted to justify child abuse as a practice by pointing me to a magazine feature story of a Korean pop star who credits the harsh physical punishment she sustained from her parents for becoming successful in life and being the upstanding citizen she supposedly is. Others, including individuals commenting on stories about the two NFL players, suggested that the woman and child were deserving of such abuse due to perceived lack of adequate discipline among children these days or that men are still superior enough to women that they feel entitled to mistreat and degrade women all they want.

All of this upsets me. Child abuse is not the same thing as corporal punishment. If it leaves bruises and cuts on the victims, that’s not corporal punishment. That’s abuse. If a victim bleeds as a result and to any extent, that’s not corporal punishment. That’s abuse. If you’re having crumpled papers being shoved into your mouth — which once happened to me as a child– that’s not corporal punishment. That’s abuse.

Domestic violence and child abuse should not be equated to spanking as it is not the same thing. Abuse toward women and children are illegal, immoral and reprehensible acts that no human being ever deserves to be put through, no matter what the nature or the extent of their alleged misdeeds are. There is absolutely no justification whatsoever for abuse.

If you beat a child or a significant other, you do not love them. Instead, you are the problem. You are the one that needs help and lots of it. Remember that this isn’t all about you. This is about the people that you supposedly love — spouse, fiancee, life partner, significant other, children, grandparents, aunts, uncles, friends among many others. For years, I have personally witnessed what the actions of one man will do to his relationships with family and friends — it sets off a destructive chain reaction that impacts everyone that ever crossed paths with him. Don’t be that person. You’re better than that.

The only thing role models should be hitting is the field for each game, not their loved ones.

On This Sunday…: Tomorrow

On This Sunday, I’m hoping today marks the start of what will be a better week than last.

This past week was one of the worst weeks I have had in recent years. During the course of the week, I have let down people I care about and love the most, encountered more setbacks in getting my career back on track and became emotionally overwhelmed by all of this that I broke down into tears for the first time in 2.5 years. I rarely cry — usually once every few years — and when it happens, it is precipitated by negatively impactful developments, big and small.

All of these recent events have made me question what’s left to be hopeful for in life. This year, so far, also has been a pretty difficult year, personally and professionally. I have experienced tough times before but this appears to be the longest in recent years. I hope to emerge from all of this soon, regaining a sense of stability and hopefulness that diminished since 2012.

I avoid as much as possible to air such negative sentiments on a public space like this. Given writing is my strong suit, I find it to be a better coping mechanism than talking more in-depth about my feelings to people I know — which I rarely do. Not everyone wants to hear about it — neither do I — and I get that. As a personal platform in which I often express my thoughts on a variety of personal and professional topics, I felt this week’s developments warranted special attention to be shared in a blog post. As to whether any of this will truly make me feel better remains to be seen.

Have a wonderful week, America. I hope we all do.

Reflections and Expectations: A Long Summer

Greetings, friends. Hope you’re having a wonderful holiday weekend.

As August comes to a close, let’s look back at the month that was and look ahead to September.

August

Graduate school – On Aug. 4, I started my second semester with the Mineta Transportation Institute at San Jose State University.

The current class I’m taking covers the fundamentals of transportation management, serving as a beginner’s course for students pursuing their Master of Science in Transportation Management (MSTM) degrees through the program. Lots of reading and a few written assignments so far. However, I’m off to a cautiously optimistic start.

Labor Day weekend in San Diego – There was an added bonus to this occasion.

On Thursday afternoon, I had a job interview in Downtown San Diego. While I won’t divulge much about where or what it entails, I am still grateful for the opportunity to be considered for an opportunity there, regardless of the eventual decision that I will receive.

After the interview, I stayed put in the area by spending the rest of the weekend with family down here — an increasingly common occurrence on holiday weekends throughout the year within the last year or so. I’m always glad to be down here to spend time in a great part of the state with some pretty wonderful people. There was definitely more to love about this visit in particular.

#EverySimpsonsEver – Yes. I took part in that marathon on FXX although I didn’t watch all episodes that have aired so far. I mainly watched my favorites from earlier seasons of the series — “Marge vs. the Monorail,” “Homie the Clown,” “The Springfield Files,” “Last Exit to Springfield” among others.

The marathon runs through Labor Day although I have since largely stopped watching. I look forward to re-watching older episodes some more later in the year when Simpsons World launches, a site that will stream full episodes of the complete series.

September

  • OC PRSA Luncheon – It’s the only major event that I can highlight for now. I’m on the planning committee for this event. If you’re in the area, register today.

How was your summer? What are you looking forward to this fall? Share your thoughts below. I’d love to hear from you.

On This Sunday…: #EverySimpsonsEver

Since Thursday, I have been watching #EverySimpsonsEver, a 12-day marathon on FXX that airs all 552 episodes that has aired so far of The Simpsons as well as The Simpsons Movie. I have only watched select episodes since, watching only my favorite episodes of the series’ earlier seasons.

Here are some of the screenshots and accompanying quotes and comments I have tweeted or posted as of today at 9 a.m. PT. A more comprehensive recap will be posted next week. Have a wonderful week, America.

The Last Four Movies That Will Star Robin Williams

Simon Oh:

On This Sunday, Robin Williams’ legacy never ends. Jon Negroni has more.

Originally posted on Jon Negroni:

By now, you may have learned the tragic news that celebrated actor Robin Williams tragically passed away today at age 63. One of my personal favorite actors growing up, Williams is best known for his wide range of talent as both a comedian and dramatic powerhouse. The word to best describe him, honestly, will always be memorable. His films simply left a lasting impression.

Films like AladdinMrs. DoubtfireGood Will HuntingGood Morning Vietnam, and of course, Dead Poets Society will be remembered as some of Williams’ best work. But there are still four more films to be released that feature the deceased actor. Here they are:

Night at the Museum: Secret of the Tomb

The third film of the Night at the Museum movies (about a museum where the exhibits come to life) will see Robin Williams reprise his role as Teddy Roosevelt.

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